"If you love something, let it go.
If it comes back, it is yours.
If it never returns, it was never yours to begin with.."
That is how you know..
but the counter is..
nothing is yours to begin with lah yah?
e.g. if you love your shoes, let them go .. put them on the street... well.. definitely someone will take them.. and they are gone forever :D .. not yours anymore ...and will never get back to you..